I’m the dumb one but I make her laugh.

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    8 months ago

    My significant other has quite significant limitations; she’s limited to my fantasy world.

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    8 months ago

    I’ve enjoyed reading many of these comments and I wanted to expand a bit on the reason for the question.

    Several friends of mine would camp for several days and do the kind of things guys do. Then we’d realize we’re kind of gross, rude, not attractive, have a lot of shortcomings, and generally not full of great qualities. But, we’ve all been married a long time and will ask ourselves why in the hell did our wives agree to marry ugly, gross fools like us? We know why we married them; they’re far better people than we are! My wife is obviously smarter than me and it isn’t even a fair comparison.

    In the end, I guess we make them laugh and are extremely wealthy.

    I lied about the extremely wealthy part. I meant borderline poor.

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    8 months ago

    I think this is a great question, could all the downvoters say why they are downvoting it?

    I stay with my wife because she’s a great person, she’s not ugly but she’s not beautiful and top ten either. She never wears makeup or dresses up unless its special occasions.

    Looks fade personalty is forever

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    7 months ago

    My SO was traumatized by her religious upbringing. The effects of purity culture have left significant scars that make it practically impossible to be physically intimate. Short kisses, holding hands, and hugging are okay but any amount of nudity is over the line. She wants to be intimate and has been working with a therapist to get there but obvious markers of success aren’t there yet. I knew all of this going in to our relationship or learned them pretty early.

    Intentionally helping someone to heal from trauma in a relationship is an appealing concept to me. Being in a romantic relationship with someone I can’t be physically intimate with has some unique problems beyond the problems I had as a single person but on balance out relationship is really good. We’re forced to have really good communication fundamentals so we don’t hurt each other with our conflicting needs. That helps us with tons of aspects of our relationship.

    By far this is the most comfortable, enriching, and benefitial romantic relationships I’ve been in.