Dancing.
I knew as a teenager I need to learn to dance. Not skillfully, but disinhibitedly.
So I started with moving my head in rhythm to the music. Nothing more.
Eventually it just clicked and started working automatically, and now I love moving my body to music.
Is there any mechanism why which you could differentiate between these three, that can’t be fulfilled by reading my post history?
I am aware that I have a style. I’m proud to say that it’s a result of my trying not to.
I don’t know whether they studied neurodivergent people or not, but from what I heard my hunch is no. They just treated the study pool as one distribution.
If I had to bet, I would bet that neurodivergent people’s eyebrow dances are disrupted, given how hard it is for ND people to be heard now matter how much sense they make.
Have you considered using one of those carts you can open from the bottom?
My recommendation is to wait until you get home to make the salad. That way you’re not eating a big salad out of a backpack in the park like a crazy person.
Reverse alphabetical, duh.
Can’t have my aardvarks at the bottom of the bag.
I feel my mind turning off, turning to teflon, when I read your comment. It made me wonder whether others have that experience too.
Here’s something interesting: social scientists have found that humans’ eyebrows dance when they talk to each other. The eyebrow dance is normally not consciously perceived, but it is synchronized between two individuals when they speak to one another.
What’s more is the eyebrow dance is literally a dance, not a conversation, specifically in the way it is timed. It is perfectly in sync, not offset as you’d expect a back-and-forth response pattern to be.
When this eyebrow dance synchronization is inhibited, for example by covering the speaker’s eyebrows, that speaker has an incredibly hard time getting information across.
This is a long-documented phenomenon in human culture: that people can be standing there conveying information and others can be hearing it but not picking it up.
Like one person can be saying “Our car crashed! My brother is badly hurt and he needs an ambulance! Can I use your phone?” and for various reasons another person can just stand there not processing any of it.
So really what I’m trying to say is that human communication is finicky and relies on maintenance of non-obvious parallel channels, and people can get cut off from others when those channels break down.
From reading your writing, and seeing how others respond, it makes me think there might be some channel based on word sequencing that’s not being adhered to.
I know from experience how much it sucks to be cut off and unseen, so I thought I’d point out for you that while I recognize what you’re saying is important, it doesn’t land in my feelings for some reason, and it feels related to how things are worded.
Listen to lots and lots of them. Absorb their patterns, to adopt those patterns, to improve your own communication.
Sees you as a person, not a machine to be stress-tested for insecurity
Establish your own discipline with top priority, even if it means doing things in an inefficient manner. The most important thing is to avoid the lapses in functioning that come from things breaking down or from your own discipline flagging.
As they say “a bird in the hand is worth two in the bush”. To expand on that a little, to keep the bird in your hand you need discipline, and to get the bird in the bush you need daring.
When starting a new business, daring is in abundant supply, and inspiration performs the role of discipline. But in order to succeed, you need to develop discipline before the inspiration wears off.
A machine at 10% efficiency, that’s running, is worth more than a machine at 90% efficiency that isn’t running.
If your emotional distress is related to inflammation then even ibuprofen can give you some relief.
As for solutions outside of pills, exercise has always been the most effective thing for me in improving my happiness.
It’s actually a pretty serious problem. It’s not so much that you’re disqualified, as that you’re ineffective at being heard.
This is a serious problem. Have you considered listening to great speeches, or rap, or poetry?
Do you sometimes feel like people don’t take you seriously, even when you say very serious things?
The house vibrates like a cheap motel bed. Can’t get anything done there.
Maybe don’t let Kyle live in your vacation house?
I was part of a startup that started rebranding for no fucking reason once. It sucked.
In another case I was hired to consult for a small startup with horrible unclean code and tech debt. We were asked to make our recommendations about architecture to reduce that tech debt. One of our recommendations was “The CEO is no longer allowed to sell features that don’t yet exist”.
Like 90% of dev work was happening in response to the CEO hanging up the phone and saying “We just landed X company … as long as we can build them X”
It’s Lowe’s isn’t it
Or that they’re willing to expend energy to get us to think that.
Or, or what if a seal could make a few human noise yeah? Or?
That’s what stimming is for, kid!
Stimming is a natural source of the “try mind” zen practitioners speak of. Do a perfect impression of Jon Stewart. Why? Why?? Hell no there’s no why.
I drum with my fingers. The first time I picked up a tabla someone was pissed that I got it “immediately”. No! That’s the result of hundreds of hours of practice.
Stimming is a fusion reactor in the autistic mind, just waiting to be hooked up to something useful. We can practice a task orders of magnitude more than most people can, because we literally can’t get tired of it.
If nothing else, go play some music. Stimming with music is how culture began. Somebody’s gotta drag these numbskulls through their passivity to new levels of beauty. Stimming is the hacksaw that cuts the prison bars shoddy workmanship.