• AOCapitulator [they/them]@hexbear.net
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    9 months ago

    I know what you mean, but also this type of logic is used to fuck with marginalized people, putting the onus on them to stop and explain to their aggressors why what is being done to them is wrong, why they are valid people, to stop and justify your own existence for one who would doubt it

    I know that’s not what you were doing, but that’s what we deal with constantly, and because others in the thread had already gone into detail about why it matters this guy was white and male, I did not need to explain again

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      9 months ago

      I get that, but I hoped that my way of posting gave me some benefit of the doubt. (:

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        9 months ago

        From my perspective, it actually served to do the opposite. I understand that you’re posting in good faith, but it is, especially at first, indistinguishable from the kinds I was describing

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          9 months ago

          With hindsight, I can see that, though I disagree with the response.

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            9 months ago

            I actually just posted what amounts to a short essay about this, if you’re interested in more of my reasoning you can check it out. Cheers though, wish you well